There is no “right way” of being a mother, we should go beyond prejudices both in the way we judge the other mothers, and how we evaluate ourselves in the maternal role.
Despite the many pills of wisdom proposed around, there are mothers who perceive the much acclaimed “maternal instinct“Immediately and others who admit they do not perceive it at all. But this does not make them less mothers than others, less right or less responsible.
Because being a mother goes beyond prejudices, conventions, conformisms, being a mother is a certainly unique and special experience but different for each of us. There are no right and wrong formulas in spite of the easy and obvious moralisms. And being a mother, with all the responsibilities that willingly or nolent involves, also teaches to hide some invisible sufferings.
Those that the mother chooses not to share with the children when she finds herself alone and misunderstood, and more often than she believes, totally abandoned by the person who, regardless of the end of the relationship, should take as much care of the offspring.
Or the suffering it proves due to the implactable judgment to which mothers, in particular, are constantly subjected. Perfection is an unhealthy illusion of our society, and the mothers, sometimes, are succubus, victims of models deemed winning and healthy only because they comply with socially shared standards. But who says that the majority is right?
Only a mother knows what it means to love her children even when she feels weak, fragile and misunderstood. Even when it does not correspond to the ideal of socially acceptable mother. Only a mother knows.
And not because women who choose different paths from motherhood are not equally capable of them, they are certainly, but only because a mother finds himself, as such, to confront a world of prejudices that want it in a certain way, in accordance with certain schemes and certain morals.
There is no right way of being a mother, each one is according to their own experience and experiences, we respect mothers, and respect ourselves between mothers, going beyond prejudices.
The silent revolution of maternal authenticity
This reflection marks a turning point in the public speech on motherhood, proposing a silent but powerful revolution: embrace the authenticity of the maternal experience in all its facets. Mothers today are called to regain the narrative of their experience, freeing themselves from the weight of unrealistic expectations. Welcoming one’s imperfection is not a sign of weakness but of courage, an act of resistance against a society that tends to simplify a deeply complex experience. It is precisely in this authenticity that the true force of contemporary motherhood lies: a force that does not derive from conforming to external models, but from recognizing and enhancing its personal path.
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