Toxic friendships: signs that it’s time to let go of those who are no longer good for you

Friendships are born, grow and, sometimes, end: learning to understand the signs of a relationship at the end of the line is essential to experience authentic bonds and free ourselves from relationships that are no longer good for us

There are bonds that improve our lives, make us feel welcomed and understood. And then there are others that, although they were once precious, are starting to weigh like an overloaded backpack. Figuring out when it’s time to lighten up can be difficult, but it’s also one of the healthiest choices we can make for ourselves. Friendship evolves, and with it we should evolve too.

Why do some friendships end?

Friendships arise from simple and powerful factors: common interests, closeness and shared moments of life. Yet, as the years pass, these same pillars can begin to falter.
Here are the three main reasons that often lead to the decline of a relationship:

Emotional distance is often more insidious than physical distance. And when a bond is based only on habit, it can become more toxic than beneficial.

The signs of a friendship that no longer works

How many times have we said to ourselves: “I have to call him”, without ever finding the right moment? Sometimes it’s not just a lack of time, but a loss of interest in each other.

Here are some signs that the relationship may be coming to an end:

Letting go of a friendship is not about disrespecting what was, but about respecting what you have become.

Can a lost friendship be revived?

People change, and with them so do friendships. But in certain cases, a bond that seemed lost can be reborn with a small gesture.

Here are some ideas for trying to recover a relationship:

However, remember that friendship is always a mutual choice. We can’t force someone to stay.

When you are no longer at the center

We are not always the ones who close the doors; sometimes we are on the other side, watching them close in front of us. It’s a painful experience, but also a chance for growth.

If a friend moves away, resist the temptation to seek explanations at all costs. Often, it’s not your fault: people evolve and change priorities.

Instead of chasing, try investing in yourself. Focus on relationships that truly enrich you and on creating a space of balance and serenity. Being a good friend to yourself is the first step to building healthy bonds with others.