The inhuman screams heard by the whole neighborhood. The useless arrival of the police. Today there is another victim of femicide, Pamela Genini29 years old, killed by her partner (much older than her), in the Gorla district of Milan.
The fatal attack took place on the balcony of the house, under the eyes of the neighbors who immediately raised the alarm. The man attempted to take his own life by trying to stab himself in the throat, but in vain and he is now hospitalized in serious conditions at Niguarda.
Another woman killed, like hundreds of other women killed by their partner, ex or a stranger. From Ilaria Sula to Sara Campanella to Martina Carbonaro, even in 2025 blood continues to flow and no one does anything.
It’s time to say enough
Pamela Genini was afraid. This is demonstrated by that desperate phone call to her ex-partner, a last attempt to ask for help while she was being attacked by the man who said he loved her and who instead hit her to death. The ex, when he received the call, understood immediately: he called 112 and rushed to Via Iglesias. But when he arrived, together with the police officers, it was already too late. Pamela was no longer there.
Pamela was “a nice and decent person“, the neighbors say about her. She loved her dog, her job and probably only dreamed of a quiet life, far from that man who didn’t accept the end of the relationship.
Another woman killed for possession, for control, for a freedom that still scares too many men. And we continue to count victims, to cry names that we should never have learned by heart.
Because Pamela is not “a news story”. It’s yet another cry from a society that really needs to change. The reason? Pamela is a victim of patriarchy because her death arises from a culture that teaches men to possess, not to love, and women to endure, to mediate, to remain silent out of fear. His killer is not an “isolated monster”: he is the product of a system that still justifies jealousy as a sign of affection, that considers women property, that tolerates violence until it turns into blood.
Pamela, like the others, was “punished” for choosing freedom, for saying Enoughfor rebelling against a man who only wanted her as his own. And every time someone says “he asked for it”, “he should have left him earlier”, “he should have reported it”, that system is strengthened.
Patriarchy is this: an invisible mechanism that places the blame on the victims and absolves the culture that kills them. Until we recognize it, we will continue to read about Pamela, about Sara, about Martina – and say, too late, that they were good girls.
