Attention, this is an article for those who are not honeyed until exhaustion, for those who do not see the glass half full, for those who have a minimum of salt in the pumpkin. This is an article that will bother the Tiktoker from 20 years of age, to the dreamy girls and discouraged mothers, to those who still believe in the fairy tale of the prince who saves them and who wants to have the history of the “good boy” drink.
That, God looks at me, at 20 he is the sacrosanct lifeblood, much less my intent will be to disilfle. Spoiler: Of respectable boys and men, who have respect in what the other and the other are and do, there are all right.
Having said that, once you believe you have found a soul mate, it is not necessary to squirt it to the 4 winds on social networks. Which said to today’s young people can seem like a praised by Vera Boomer Citrulla. But I’ll explain better.
He has taken hold in these days – after the heinous feminicides of Ilaria Sula and Sara Campanella – a trend on Tiktok who, like all trends, risks being risky and misleading.
A series of more or less young girlfriends have begun to sweeten their fantastic love story with the boyfriend who has the overwhelming peculiarity of not being a femicide.
The phrase that all repeat is, surrounded by super honeyed couple images:
In a world of men who take their lives from women, I thank God every day for making me find a man who leave me a thousand.
Now, scandling a littleSarina assertion of the 1950s (and putting the divine thanks aside and the word man With the capital u), some frights of fright must come to us.
Just as Selvaggia Lucarelli says who made us explore this comforting vision of the new millennium, “In the end, the reworking of what happens must always go through the creation of an emotional video that puts themselves at the center. In this case, then, even underlining the luck of not having a killer as a companion“.
Deo Gratias (And with this with God we are three, afterwards I will go to confess).
What comes to mind is simple: in the first place, This sentence leverages an emotional concept that reduces a complex question like femicide to a superficial topicrisking to trivialize it. Violence against women is a tragic and systemic reality, not a “phenomenon” that can be faced as a sort of lottery of luck.
The emotional reworking of what happens must be sensitive and aware, avoiding to focus on one’s individual experience, especially in such a dramatic context. When it comes to femicide, the question cannot be reduced to “fortune“To have a non -violent partner, as if it were something exceptional. It is an approach that minimizes the importance of the theme and, alasalso risks transmitting a dangerous message, which puts aside the real necessity and urgency of a collective reflection on how to combat gender violence and on the need for a structural change in society.
Also, we must not forget that Femicide is not only an isolated act, but it is the culmination of a system of inequalities and violence that occur in multiple formsfrom the discrimination to the culture of “possession” towards women. Each victim of femicide is an individual story, and reducing this tragedy to a reflection on one’s own personal “fortune” is disrespectful towards those who have lost their lives and those who are still fighting for their safety and dignity.
So I do not find myself: it is wrong to focus on what is believed to be a privilege (not having a violent partner), because gender violence is a social question that must be addressed with awareness, avoiding the narrative that reduces to personal emotions such a dramatic and complex theme.
Having said that, my dear, Remember that Filippo Turetta was there to bake biscotti And above all that gender violence is not only femicide or that it does not always flow into it, but it is also psychological manipulation, control over one’s economies, subtle and unfounded prohibitions.
Eyes open and less muffled reality on Tiktok, please.
